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Dating Abuse Awareness & Support
Abuse often starts with love bombing, attention, and charm, then becomes manipulative and controlling. The cycle includes tension → incident → reconciliation → calm, which makes it confusing for survivors to leave.
Text/Call: 904-383-7158 (Hopefull Handbags Global USA)
National DV Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) • Text “START” to 88788
Truths to Remember
You’re Not Overreacting. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Abuse isn’t always visible—it can be emotional, verbal, or psychological.
Abuse Is Not Love. Jealousy, control, and possessiveness are not passion. Real love respects boundaries and values your freedom.
It’s Not Your Fault. Abuse is their choice. You didn’t cause it and you can’t fix it.
You Don’t Need “Proof.” Bruises or screenshots aren’t required for your experience to be valid. Your feelings matter.
Safety Note: Planning to leave can be safer than leaving suddenly. A counselor, HHG advocate, shelter, or hotline can help you create a step-by-step safety plan.
If You Think You’re Being Abused
Common Signs
- Isolation: pulling you from friends/family; monitoring calls, texts, or social media.
- Control: jealousy, possessiveness, forced “check-ins,” tracking, or threats.
- Emotional/Verbal abuse: insults, put-downs, yelling, humiliation, intimidation.
- Fear & anxiety: walking on eggshells, making excuses for injuries.
What You Can Do
- Trust your gut—your safety comes first.
- Talk to a confidential counselor, HHG advocate, or hotline and create a safety plan.
- Document what you can safely (dates, incidents) and store it somewhere secure.
- Plan exits and code words with trusted people. Consider campus Title IX offices when relevant.
If You Think a Friend Is Being Abused
What You Might Notice
- They become withdrawn, anxious, or less confident—especially around their partner.
- They cancel plans often or must “check in” before deciding anything.
- They stop clubs/sports—or seem monitored online.
- They defend their partner, avoid topics, or appear fearful.
How to Help
- Don’t pressure—listen. “I’m here for you. You’re not alone.”
- Believe them. Don’t question their truth.
- Ask, don’t assume. “Do you feel safe?” gives space without pushing.
- Protect privacy. Don’t gossip; consult a trained advocate for guidance.
- Offer options, not ultimatums. Share hotlines/campus offices; go with them if they’re scared.
Resources to Share
Campus Counseling Center • 904-819-6200 • Free & Confidential
Hopefull Handbags Global USA • 904-383-7158
Title IX Office • Dating violence / sexual harassment
National Domestic Violence Hotline • 1-800-799-7233 • Text “START” to 88788